You don’t need clarity. You need permission to trust what you already know.
3 reasons you keep dismissing your clarity, and the key to trusting it instead.
I have to be honest, I’ve never understood why so many people struggle with clarity.
To me, clarity has always felt so simple.
And last night, I finally understood why.
While teaching the final module of Pathway to Purpose, something clicked in a way it never had before - a connection I didn’t even realize I’d been waiting to make. One that I know you need to hear.
”I need help finding clarity”
For the past 6 years, I’ve been coaching people who feel unfulfilled and misaligned in their careers. They come to me searching for one thing:
Clarity.
“I just need help figuring out what’s next.”
Perfect, I think to myself. I love helping people get clarity because from my perspective, it’s SO simple.
We start by tuning into what they want. And sometimes, at first, they hesitate.
They’re used to filtering their desires through the lens of practicality, logic, and external approval.
But once I give them permission to be ruthlessly, unapologetically honest about what they want- genie-in-a-bottle style- the answers flow.
Clarity flows out so easily
Sometimes it starts with what they don’t want:
I don’t want to prescribe meds anymore.
I don’t want to do 15-minute patient visits.
I don’t want to carry the weight of life-and-death decisions.
I don’t want to take care of people.
Sometimes it’s more big-picture:
I want to be in charge of my time.
I want work that energizes me.
I want to build my life around what actually matters most to me.
I want to have financial freedom.
And sometimes, it’s specific:
I’d love to teach kids about nutrition.
I want to help improve the social determinants of health.
I want to run a permaculture farm.
Everyone I’ve coached- even for just a 60-minute session- can ultimately access a laundry list of desires.
And yet… even after all that, they still don’t think they have clarity.
Which I didn’t fully understand, until last night.
I realized the missing piece.
The thing you’ve probably needed to hear for a long time.
The connection I didn’t realize needed to be said out loud.
Desire IS clarity
Your desire is your clarity.
The things you want are your direction.
Desire is the language of your intuition trying to get your attention.
That tug of “I want this”?
That exhaustion of “I can’t do this anymore”?
That pull toward something else- even if it doesn’t fully make sense yet?
It’s not a random prefernce.
It’s not a selfish indulgence.
It’s your intuition speaking to you.
Your higher self is trying to lead you to your most aligned and authentic path.
It does this through desire.
Desires are safe guidance.
You don’t need more clarity
So what that means it: you don’t actually need more clarity- you need permission to trust the clarity you already have.
But most of us weren’t taught how to do that.
We’ve been trained to prioritize logic, practicality, and external validation.
So even when our desires speak clearly… we second-guess.
“What if this doesn’t make sense financially?”
“What if I’m being unrealistic?”
“What if I’m just making it up?”
There are so many reasons that we dismiss our desires.
Will this work out?
We dismiss our desires because we aren’t sure they’ll work out.
Instead of following what we want, we try to predict what will work.
We try to make the right choice.
The safe choice.
The one that will be approved, praised, or make perfect sense to everyone around us.
But that’s not actually the question.
One of my clients was struggling with this last night:
“I keep getting hung up on the money piece. I have all these ideas and I keep wondering- which one is financially viable?”
And here’s what I told her:
If we assume all of your ideas are financially viable…
then which one do you want?
Immediately, she named two ideas that stood out- two things she really wanted to try.
She already had clarity. She just didn’t know she could trust it.
But it’s only by trusting our desires as clarity that we build a path that’s aligned and sustainable.
How do I follow this?
We also dismiss our desires because we don’t know how to follow them.
We don’t know what they’ll look like in practice:
“I know I want to work on the social determinants of health… but how?”
“I don’t even know what jobs exist in that space. Would I have to go back to school?”
“What would I need to be qualified?”
The things we desire feel too ambiguous to act on.
They live outside our current zone of knowledge, so we shut them down before we give them a chance.
We don’t know how to explore.
Or we’ve been unwilling to take the time to explore.
Or no one ever gave us permission to explore.
Am I allowed to want this?
And sometimes, we feel like our desires are wrong.
We think they’re selfish, or bad, or shameful- so we argue with them:
“I know I want to help people in a bigger systems way…
but I feel guilty not wanting to work with people 1:1.”“I know I don’t want to carry people’s well-being in my hands anymore…
but I should want to. I should keep taking care of people.”
We don’t trust the goodness of our desires- so we override what’s true for us in the name of obligation, fear, or performance.
We want to be good, so we dismiss what we want.
But what if your desires are good?
What if the part of you that wants is the wisest part of you?
What if you stopped trying to find clarity and just trusted the clarity that is already inside of you?
Intuition is your source of clarity
That’s exactly what connecting to your intuition gives you.
When you connect to your intuition you develop a relationship with your own knowing.
With the part of you that knows what you want, before it makes sense.
The part that says “this way”- even when it doesn’t give you a 5 step plan.
The part that points you to the next right step- even when it feels scary.
Desire is one of the ways your intuition speaks.
And learning to trust your desires is learning to trust your intuition.
Because when you’re connected to your intuition, you don’t have to chase clarity.
You live from it.
Why clarity feels easy for me…
This is why clarity has always felt easy for me.
Because I’ve spent years strengthening my connection to my intuition-
the part of me that always knows what’s right for me.
At any moment, clarity is just a few deep breaths away.
Just one journal session away.
It’s always there, waiting for me to tune in.
And that’s what I want for you too.
I want you to know how to reliably connect to your intuition
and source your clarity from within.
So you don’t have to stay stuck in an unfulfilling job, overthinking your escape route.
You can start building a career that feels like an extension of who you are.
One next right step at a time.
You can always know your next right step- without overthinking.