i disappeared for 90 days and quantum leaped from the inside-out
6 lessons on building inner leadership
“I wanted to press a pause button on my life.”
That’s what I told myself when I landed in Kuala Lumpur on January 31st.
The plan? to post up in a city where I didn’t know anyone for 90 days.
I just knew I needed to disappear for a while, and couldn’t fully explain why.
The pull had been there since August.
This strange, almost antisocial desire to cocoon, to hermit, to get away. And for months I talked myself out of it. I’m a social creature. I love people. I need community. This is probably not healthy.
But finally, the pull got too strong to ignore. So at the end of January I made my move.
I thought I was just craving lots of spacious, uninterruped time to get things done.
To have weeks on end with no expectations or social obligations, so I could build my empire.
But it turned into something a bit different.
I’ve spent the last 90 days in what I call the #getwrecked healing phase.
The kind of inner work that fundamentally rearranges your insides while humbling you in the process. Where you release triggers and cry tears at a rate that feels unreasonable. It’s the “there’s no way my life experiences have been traumatic enough to warrant the pain I seem to be processing”.
Where you don’t always know what’s shifting until you’re already on the other side of it.
I came in to these 90 days seeking relief. I left with something I didn’t even know to ask for.
A completely upgraded self.
A more rooted, more expanded, more whole version of me.
In this week’s Inner Circle, I take you behind the scenes of what those 90 days actually looked like: the real depths of the inner work I share:
The exact moment I quantum leaped my emotional intelligence and how its made me diabolically fearless.
The lesson about proximity and environment I keep coming back to (and the practical ways I’m rigging mine in my favor)
Why I needed to disappear to heal — and the final week in KL that showed me I don’t have to anymore
This episode is straight from my the depths of my inner process, and I’m so happy to share it with you.
(p.s. this is the final week that the inner circle will be $9/ month. next week we are launching it’s new format and increasing the price! subscribe now to save )
